“Rise above it” is a philosophy that arises from the fact that in my work with various clients, I noticed a focus on "cures" and "solutions" that I started to realize was unhealthy. Of course, cures and solutions are good when they happen, but that's the problem or rather 3 problems;

  1. They don't always happen. So what then? Is there then no more hope?
  2. Even when cures and solutions happen, we forget that the process to them is often a journey, not an event.
  3. The focus on cures and solutions leads to us forgetting that a cure is not an end, but only a new beginning. What about after then?

Thus "rising above it" means building a life that is about more than "being cured" but about living fully, whether the problem is gone or not, this means not focusing solely on the problem (whatever it is) but focusing on your life, while addressing the problem.

“The Rise above It” philosophy can be applied to any long term life challenge: whether in health, relationships, emotions or any other area.

(Currently, I'm doing a series in the Facebook community I lead on how to heal from old emotional wounds based on an understanding of this. It's a 12-day series and I'll be sharing on different aspects each day )

 Today we'll talk about the first major thing required to rise above anything we are dealing with. It's a word that in the field of psychology and mental health we refer to as insight.        

    This insight has a specific meaning, not the usual one we may be thinking of. From a mental health point of view, it is the ability to;

  1. a) Recognize the EXISTENCE of a problem
  2. b) Recognize the WEIGHT of the problem and
  3. c) Seek or accept HELP for the problem

 Now there are two types of insight: intellectual and emotional insight

 Intellectual insight is the recognition that there is a problem but without an acceptance of its full weight, which then leads to either incomplete or no acceptance of help however in emotional insight there is the recognition of the problem and of its full weight.

The reason for this difference is that the recognition of the full weight of a problem always has an emotional component this means that if I have a personality problem that affects my relationships or my productivity at work, it is possible that I don't realize it then you would say I don't have insight into this problem (Let's say it's an anger issue for instance) but what if I realize I have an anger issue but I don't think it's so bad like all my colleagues at work are making it seem? Then I have intellectual insight. Emotional insight would mean I not only know I have the anger issue, but that I know it to the point where I FEEL BAD about it — that “feeling bad” is the emotional component that makes it emotional insight.

Thanks for reading.

See also; take control of your relationship in 7 days – rise above it

Written by: Doctor Ayomide